3 Tips on Changing Yourself

  "Don't be a slave to your past but rather the bishop of your 
                  Soul and the architect of your moment." 

Are you still holding grudges against someone or some situation from your past? 

Understand that holding on to old material, emotions or grudges that are really clogs up your personal energy, mental space and ability to move forward in this coming year.

The general stereotype that has been passed around from generation to generation, is change is impossible. You can't change yourself, the way you feel, the way you think, your life or even rewrite your history if you are holding onto too much old baggage. 

True or False?

It is true you become stuck and unable to move forward if your mind is to busy holding onto the past. But what is not true is that you can't change. Of course you can. It takes willingness, perseverance and readiness. 

In order to change you have to go through a complete reset of your mind. You should start with throwing all your past garbage out of your life. All physical, mental, emotional and spiritual negative energy you have been unknowing holding onto. Stop holding on to all the old stuff that does not serve you. Start from scratch; so, do a general cleaning of internal closet.

3 Tips on Changing Yourself 

If you continue to stockpile your old grudges, regrets, resentments and you do not clean out your internal mental closet it may lead to three things:

     1. The endless ruminating and over thinking about past                        situations will produce a constant parade of mental, 
         emotional and behavioral flashbacks. 

     2. You begin to over expect and overestimate leading 
          to endless disappointment.

     3. You have no space to let any new things in that are positive.

Take Away

So it makes sense to clean out your internal mental closet of old grudges, hurts, regrets and resentments that you have been storing for a long time and are running around in your mind. Once you clean out your the closet in your mind, your mind will reset itself. As a result you will realize an increase in energy, mental clarity, increased storage space and more focus.

Start cleaning your mind today!!!!

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Announcement: Dr Bill has a New PC and Mobile Website

New Website for PCs

It has been over 5 years since I first opened my original Trauma Recovery website. Times have changed and so have my services and abilities. I am proud to announce that I have a created a new website to replace the old one. The new site has been remade to be easier to use and offered new context. 

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Mobile

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Tips

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I added a new page where you can investigate details on Rapid Reduction Technique©® and its possibilities for eliminating flashbacks on the drop down menu at the top under the Trauma tab at the top of the Home page.

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 Whatever you want to do, let me inspire you to achieve it.”

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Thought Addiction: Thinking Gone Wrong

Do you have trouble with episodes of looping thoughts that are negative and you cannot seem to stop them? You are not different. Millions of people battle with looping negative thoughts every day. If you do not do something about these episodes the onslaught can cause you to develop a thinking habit or what is known as a thought addiction.

There is a way to stop the looping and shift your thoughts from negative to positive. But first of all you have to understand what is happening.

Definition of Thought Addiction

The importance of the concept of having an addiction to a thought has been increasing. Simply, thought addiction is when a thought or set of thoughts get stuck in your head and the thoughts begin to loop. As the thoughts loop, the person becomes more and more focused on them due to the negativity of the content. The person is then less able to detach from them. The longer these types of thoughts loop the stronger their power increases. It is very common for the person to feel as though he or she has lost control. Once out of control, the thought ends up consuming his or her energy and depletes the ability to fight them off and perform successfully. At that point the thought takes over his or her mental life and becomes addicting. These thoughts no longer are controllable and the person tends to act out in different ways to turn it off. Some people use methods to shut them down such as medicating it, fighting it or use a substance to avoid it. Many people with this condition state “I can’t get this thought out of my head and it is driving me crazy,” “I feel helpless and out of control”. What is so important to take away from the concept of addiction to a thought is not a mental disorder or a lack of self-control problem. Thought addiction is a skill deficiency.

Generally these types of thoughts are generated from negative core beliefs that have formed from his or her experiences or formed due to negative statements told to them about them from someone else. This thoughts that originate from embedded core beliefs are triggered by a present situation, and then surface into the conscious mind seemly out of nowhere. The most common example of this type of core belief that generates looping thoughts is “I am not good enough”. Cognitive therapists have long known and proven that a thought precedes an emotion and a behavior. But what is also true is that negative thoughts are the result of triggered negative core beliefs. Understand that “every addiction begins and ends with a thought”. 

Here are a few forms of thoughts which can result in chronic looping are:

·         Body image thoughts

·         Depressive thoughts

·         Doubt

·         Fear

·         Worry

·         Obsessive thoughts

·         Thoughts of lack of self-confidence

·         Thoughts of lack of worth 

·         Superstitious thoughts

·         Suicidal ideation

·         Weight thoughts

Take Away

So the important take away is these types of insidious thoughts can be stopped and balance can be restored.  Understand that the way to stop a possible addiction to a thought or unceasing looping is through gaining a new skill and practicing that skill. You do have the power to command and reset your thoughts. All you need to do is acquire the proper skills and have a willingness to consistently practice the skills to effect positive change. Find out from Thought Addiction Assessment if you may have one.

                           

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Negative Thoughts Bother Me

"Why do negative thoughts enter my mind? Where do they come from?"

Well there are two routes that need to be considered. Negative thoughts are generally triggered unconsciously in course of your daily events by two different routes.  

Route #1 

The first route is when negative thoughts surface as the result of a current event stimulating a memory of a previous event that then releases a core belief formed at the same time from that event. For example: a core belief could be “I am not good enough”. 

Route #2 

The other route is when the current event stimulates the audio portion of the memory recorded and releases the audio file of the direct statement recorded in the brain, like “You will never be any good at anything”. 

Understand that both routes of delivery are mentally disempowering.  Either the beliefs or the statements seem to come of nowhere. You have no idea where they came from or why. Both may diminish in conscious awareness but will continue to influence you by running in the background of your mind. Both will also cause you to think negative and could turn into a thought addiction. 

There is some positiveness. The positive thing is it is possible to make a shift in both, and neutralize the influence either have on you. At that point they will no longer affects you. Transformation can occur quickly once you learn a skill that helps to shift or eliminate them such as the RRT 2.0 or the Blackboard Method.

Take Away

You do not have to accept that your negative thinking is just a way of life and there is nothing that can be done. When you learn more you find out that actually your thoughts originate from your embedded core belief system. So change your core beliefs (or change the Moon) to positive or motivating and you can then change your negative thoughts to positive ones.

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